Today we want to compare and contrast relationships and cooking, specifically baking a cake. To bake a cake you need the basics – flour, sugar, eggs, vanilla extract, butter, milk, and a small amount of another very important ingredient, baking powder. Without the baking powder to act as a leavening agent, the cake will not rise and become the delicious cake you had hoped for. You can argue as to which ingredient is most important, but in reality, all of these ingredients are of equal importance, forgetting one of them, or adding the wrong amount, leaves the cake more suited for feeding the ducks than celebrating a special occasion.
Meaningful relationships on the other hand, while also having a number of key ingredients, are firmly based upon one primary ingredient – love. Yes, in a relationship you need among other things respect, honesty, trust, and communication, but without love being first and foremost, none of those ingredients work too well, if at all.
We deeply value the importance of relationships. We put relationships over rules. Put another way, we want to be known for who we are for and not for what we are against. We think relationships can best be nurtured and developed using the acronym LACE, with “L” representing Love. Love is the foundation upon which the other three letters stand. And in case you are wondering, the other three are Accountability, Challenge, Encourage.
You are probably very familiar with the “Love Passage” from 1 Corinthians 13, often read at weddings. Even if you have heard it a thousand times, we encourage you to take a few minutes and read it again, 1 Corinthians 13:4-13. It ends with this endless truth, “And now these three things remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”
So unlike baking a cake, where the proper amount of each ingredient is needed in order to ensure the cake is edible, in relationships you can never add too much love. Just imagine how much better this world would be if we filled it with more love and less hatred. We will end with this – A physician once said, “The best medicine for humans is love.” His patient asked, “What if it doesn’t work?” He smiled and replied, “Increase the dose.”
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